In the beginning....

(warning long post..sorry)

I come to you from my second day of being a married woman, curled up on the couch in front of a fire in little cottage in Pemberton, my husband…asleep on the bed.

I’ve always liked the idea of a blog and have unsuccessfully started a few, but never felt I had something exciting or interesting to write about....until now.

I have so much information stored in my brain that I need to share it with someone and that someone falls to complete strangers around the globe.

I have just spent the past 8 months planning a wedding that was over in a flash, to be honest I’m slightly disappointed, so many people said enjoy it cause it will go quickly, and I always responded with a “yeah, yeah I know” never really fully taking on board the full meaning behind those words. Now I wish I had of. Don’t get me wrong though, I loved every single moment of my wedding sure it had some mishaps – like our limo breaking down!!- but nothing could of come between me and my happiness that day!

My best advice comes in four parts

Don’t stress

Time management

Family fun

And lucky last

ITS YOUR DAY

First things first – Stress and time management

Stress is an absolute waste of time and I am the absolute worst person for this! I spent the better part of the last 8 months stressed! My husband and I are slight procrastinators and we left a lot to the last minute which caused stress… It doesn’t matter how small what ever needs to be done, if possible sort it out right then and there, then make a note in the ‘to complete or completed’ pile, Kieran and I fell into the trap that it’s small and easy to do so leave it to last and get the ‘big’ things done first, nuh arh gurl fran! That is a no – no!! So many of my worries could have been elevated had we done things when first thought of them, granted there are some things that have to wait but make sure you get onto what ever you can do in a timely matter other wise like me you'll have a list as tall as yourself to sort out and arrange in the 2 weeks before the wedding!!

Other things that added to my load where family matters and friends, at the end of the day all you need to remember is your about to marry the love of your life… who cares if the flowers don’t look quite right or uncle bob is annoyed because he had to stand, in 5 years time all that is going to matter is that your still happily married.

Family Fun!

My oh my where to even begin, I’m not sure about you but I have the most dysfunctional family on this planet! Who I love and adore to bits though! My family caused me quite a bit of grief through out the whole process, some warranted some not, let me be the first or second of fiftieth person to tell you sadly weddings can bring out the worst in families, I like to think its cause they want to make sure your day is perfect and they have there own ideas on how to make that happen and they want to be apart of the excitement which is fair enough, but there comes a point where you need to realise you cannot jeopardies your marriage for the sake of other people. If it ever comes between your family and your fiancé think long and hard as every situation is different but your spending YOUR LIFE with this person not your family and family come around eventually. Another thing is involve family on decisions that do effect them, something I learnt the hard way. When Kieran and myself made one particular decision, there where some displeased family members who we should of talked to first about it, whether it would of effected the decision I’m not sure but I think they would of appreciated being involved. No matter what you do your going to step on someone’s toes friends or family just try to be as understanding of why their upset and deal with it nicely there’s no point you yelling at them and creating a massive cycle of everyone being angry, try to sort the issues with the person the issue lays with not behind there back and if it cant be solved at least you’ve kindly tried to fix the situation and they can see that.

If I could go back and re-do it all how I dealt with my family is probably something I would do differently. But to be fair there is no – how to plan a wedding and deal with your family- books, there’s billons on what to wear and what flowers to have but this is a minefield you have to navigate on your own.

But if you need a third party sounding board I’m more then happy to listen and offer any advice I may have on the situation.

Lastly it’s your day

Well you and your husbands. Kieran and I are incredibly blessed to have some amazing family and friends that all come to our aid and all helped with making things and helping set up stuff, if you have them use em, I’m the last person you’ll find asking for help but most people are more then happy to, you want to get to your day and not have to worry about anything just enjoying every moment of it.

In the lead up make decision based on what you and you fiancé want not your brother, not your friend, not his aunty etc sure take there ideas and them into consideration but at the end of the day you want to look back and see the day as a reflection of you and your husband not other people preferences. 

WOW, Ok so that was a lot to take in I do apologise, I did say there was a lot bouncing around in my head!! 
I just want people to enjoy there wedding planning experience and if I can help with that then that would be sublime, also to provide some good humour or perspective into married life for those in it or about to join the club.

If i offend, soz not soz... everyone is entitled to an opinion and I don't mind if you share it with me or question me, but I have no time for negativity I'm having too much fun in life to let that stuff in :) 
Yes I understand I may come across as some silly naive girl who has no idea what she's talking about but life is all about learning and I may say something now and change my view later, but no-ones perfect and that includes me!

so come learn with me and I hope you enjoy the ride as much as I am! 

Love and Blessings Mrs T <3